Japanese Dating Service Shares Sobering Advice for Big Otaku

If there is one thing otaku seem to have trouble with, it’s finding a romantic partner that share their passions. You can read a host of frustrations shared on social media about how tough it can be.

Tora Con

When Tora no Ana launched their Tora Con otaku matchmaking service this past March, it seemed like a godsend, provided you were living in Japan. They billed themselves as a professional service that can help singles find a romantic partner that shared their otaku interests.

Tora Con encourages its clients to be proud of their otaku status. They even provide an “otaku diagnostic test” to help better match you with other singles based on your specific hobbies. However, they recently shared some sobering (and universal) advice.

1. People with only otaku interests.

2. People with otaku interests, but also do non-otaku things.

3. People with otaku interests, but also some other attractive quality.

People in groups 2 and 3 are the ones who’re most likely to have romantic success, so if you can, it’s best to give yourself some sort of “added value.” As much as possible, really. So we’d like you to explore non-otaku interests as well.

To those of you who say, “The only things I want to do are otaku stuff!”

That sounds like a lot of fun, and we don’t deny your right to live that way, but…

What will you talk about when you run out of otaku stuff to talk about?
Where will you go on dates?
What will you talk to your partner’s parents about when you spend time with them?
When you have kids, how will you play with them? Will you push your hobbies onto them?
What will you do when you can’t do otaku stuff?

Ore Monogatari!!

It may seem odd that an otaku dating service will share this advice, but it’s pretty solid. Forming successful relationships require more than just sharing otaku hobbies. It can be a great icebreaker, but Tora Con’s concern is that 1-dimensional people (in this case, otaku only folks) will only find heartbreak without expanding their horizons.

Some people may be critical of the “attractive quality” aspect, but that’s more than just looks or a nice job. Having a great personality and a wide range of interests can help open up your prospects, which will lead to a happier romantic life.

Embrace your otaku side, but also enjoy some conventional hobbies if you a chance at real-life romance!

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